My Son Built So Much Confidence By Reading

When children are learning to read independently, some will

attempt it happily, accepting correction with ease and without fear of making

mistakes. Some, though, will not. Many children will shy away from reading out

loud because of a lack of confidence. This lack of confidence is not an

indicator of their ability. Many children who are reluctant to read out loud

are great readers; however, they have a desire to be perfect and don’t want to

mess up.

It can be heartbreaking for parents to watch their children

struggle with reading confidence, but the more you push them to read to you,

the more they clam up and refuse. Even though my son was an early reader, he

was not always eager to read out loud around my husband or me. He is a born

perfectionist, and while so many things come naturally, his desire to do them

perfectly from the start can hamper his efforts. Here are five things we did to

encourage my son to read aloud, and I would suggest them to any parent facing a

similar situation at home.

1. Don’t push your child. When reading with your child,

don’t force him to read. Instead make sure that you are next to each other and

he is following along with you as you read. Trace your finger along the text as

you read.

2. Give him privacy. Give him time alone to read without an

audience. Respect his privacy to read alone.

3. Read to a different audience. Suggest that he read to a

puppy, younger sibling, or stuffed animal. None of these judge or know if a

word was read correctly or not. This helps your child build his confidence. My

son built so much confidence by reading to his baby sister. Now even though his

confidence is no longer an issue, he still reads to her often. Everyone wins!

4. Let your child see you struggle with words. I understand

that some parents want to seem infallible, but showing your children that

sometimes we have to work hard on a word or two is beneficial too. This was a

huge turning point for my son. While reading a book about Star Wars, I had to

sound out many of the characters’ names. My struggles showed my son that

sounding out words while reading wasn’t a sign of weakness but a tool to use no

matter how good of a reader you are.

5. Don’t overcorrect. When your child is reading do not

correct her too much. Remember, the goal here is to build confidence. You will

have lots of time to work on accuracy and fluency, but take it one step at a

time. If your child asks for help with a word go for it, but small mistakes or

omissions should be overlooked in the name of confidence for now.